[討論] 用自身以外的條件吸引異性,是好的嗎?
我想這個問題已經好久了,想要聽聽看大家是怎麼想的。用自身以外的條件吸引異性,是
對的嗎?這樣是是愛情的本質嗎?這樣做好嗎?
從結果論來看,這樣子或許不是正確的,但毫無疑問,是最有利益的。而且價值判斷並無
所謂是非對錯問題,只有優劣高低問題。但我還是想要聽聽看大家的意見。
我們先定義所謂的自身條件,我先略將他定義為「與個人人格不可分離的條件」,例如:
個性、價值觀、道德判斷、習慣、風趣,甚至我們說的天性、本能等等。以下稱他為「內
在條件」。和他相對的,就是所謂的自身以外的「外在條件」,例如:外表(身高、美貌
、穿著)、經濟能力(財產)、身分(特殊或稀有職業)、社會地位(權力)、智力等等
。
先假設一個情況叫做情況A:某人的內在條件很普通,無法吸引到異性,講話也不風趣,
品德並未特別高尚,分數很低,於是情路坎坷。
我就先承認是我自己,沒錯。
然後再假設一個情況B:此人提升自己的外在條件,例如說他取得了特別的職業(例如醫
師、會計師、律師),或者他依靠努力,成為了成功的企業家,又或者他花了一筆錢,將
自己整形成劉德華、金城武,或者布萊德彼特,whatever。
結果這時候因為外在條件的因素,原本內在條件的分數非常低,加上去竟然飛天了。然後
異性緣變得非常好。
社會現象不可能完全重新實現,但我們設法想像一個情況:
1.在X宇宙中,甲男追求乙女,但是整體分數太低了,被打槍了
2.在Y宇宙中,甲男仍然追求乙女,在這個宇宙中,甲男內在條件和X宇宙相同,但外在
條件好到爆表,乙女接受了。甲男的愛情成功了。
但這樣子所吸引到的,是愛情的本質嗎?或者說,愛情「應該」是「允許」這樣子的嗎?
我當然不是說不應該這樣,但這似乎有悖於愛情的本質。感情應該在於人的本質,而非人
的本質以外的因素。
不過,我和家人或朋友討論到這個問題。我是採取肯定的態度的(畢竟自己內在條件真的
不好),但家人和我說:如果女生真的是因為這些外在條件吸引來的,那有一天也會因為
這些條件消失而離開,他愛的只是你的外在條件,而不是你。
先不考慮說若真不依賴外在條件,像我這種人就只能等死的情況下,我似乎也毫無選擇的
餘地,世界總是殘酷,現實總是血腥。
大家覺得呢?
想聽聽看其他人的意見。
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