[心情] 請不要說我們不適合已刪文
最近看了一些文章,希望能擺脫難過的情緒,我知道不能一直停留在這個位置。我男友先
前說的沒錯,不能老是注意旁邊的人,也不要擔心有人會介入,應該要檢視自己的問題,
我相信,他也不希望看到我極盡所能地挽回及表現,而是想看到自己整體的轉變-面對自
己、認識自己、了解自己、超越自己。
感情的態度中,我想我一開始就做錯了。我習慣依賴、習慣凡事都問他,導致我欠缺人方
面的思考,也讓他筋疲力盡。因為遠距離的關係,我喜歡掌控他的行蹤,是我缺乏安全感
、缺乏自信心。其實我們對於異性,都十分有定性的,知道什麼該做及不應該做的,我們
沒有乾妹、乾哥之類的。
可能是缺乏安全感、女生喜歡討拍的關係,導致我們容易吵架的主因。大部分的女生很情
緒化,有時候喜歡用鬧的方式來討男友的拍拍,但是在戀情未發生問題前,男友會覺得很
可愛,但久而久之會產生厭煩。因為缺乏安全感,總是喜歡追蹤男友的動態,喜歡問FB的
女生是誰誰誰,男生會覺得沒事一直找事,也讓他們覺得不被信任。(PS這是男生的心態
,但對於女生我們是想掌握你的交友狀況,說穿了也就是沒安全感)
愛一個人很容易,但要兩個獨立的個體、不同的個性、不同的家庭、不同的生活習慣的兩
個人生活在一起,真的不是件容易的事,有些改變是要和原本的生活習慣與自己的想法作
拉扯,有時候會進一步,但有時候會退二步。
請你不要說我們不適合,我只是還沒達到你的標準,我知道你累了,也無法再多一點的包
容,我誠摯地希望不要放棄我們十一年的感情,我會改變的。
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