[求助] 同姓的問題真的很難過
目前在一起已經五年多了
因為有結婚的念頭,所以提了一下。
但是因為他老爸從我們再一起的時候就很反對我們同姓的問題
剛開始在一起時也覺得爸爸時間久了就會淡忘掉
他們家的人都很聽他爸爸的話,他爸比較固執說一小孩都不能說二
要照著她爸的方式去走,所以她們的家庭壓力很大
爸爸平常在家跟小孩的比較少有互動,也許這樣威嚴的家庭導致小孩都不敢說什麼
平常跟他爸完全都沒有互動,我只要過去他就離開
上禮拜天第一次自己厚著臉皮見他爸爸,他爸也吼了我10分鐘
說當初就說過不要再一起了,因為我們同姓,其實我們姓吳的在台灣好像也很多
但是她爸也一直吼,我也只能說幾句話說真的想娶妳女兒之類的話
爸爸的底線就是公證結婚不想讓大家看到也不想看到我
我女朋友覺得結婚應該是要得到家人的祝福,即使公證爸爸也是不願意祝福的感覺
因為她跟我在一起的關係,爸爸變得跟她很少說話
但是其他的兒女平常在家也都很少跟爸爸說話,可能真的都很怕爸爸
女友昨天提了暫時冷靜一下彼此不要聯絡,讓她好好的想想
因為她很想結婚,但是現實面的問題不得不考量
她要面對的家人壓力很大很大,我也希望可以一起承擔
我也覺得家人是最重要的,所以當她一提出時我並沒有說什麼
也只能選擇接受,但是沒辦法五年多的感情,從來沒有爭吵過
卻因為家人而分開,我真的很難接受,她媽媽對於我評價是還不錯
只不過她媽媽也講不贏她爸爸的固執脾氣,我也想說去做個基因檢測之類
還去翻了祖譜對照,爸爸也是說就是同姓,他們家的姊妹都嫁了只剩下她一個在家
所以她在家的壓力真的很大,要面對她的爸爸
她爸爸這關我真的好想努力,但是一直找不到方法
冷靜對我來說我想也無法冷靜吧,也許她的家人壓力真的很大
不知道有沒有人遇到同樣的問題
謝謝
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