[求助] 失去了信任,就什麼也不是了..
小魯已而立之年,有個交往了八年的女孩,也有明年結婚的默契,就差求婚
從一開始的遠距離到同居,直到最近被我家人拆散加上換工作得回老家,又恢復成遠距離,平均兩個星期見面一次。
其實我們倆都知道,我家人不喜歡她,原因是我造成的...
也因為如此,內心一直覺得愧對於她,她的要求,我也都儘可能滿足,同居的時候她考全職考生兩年,我知道那是她所追求的,雖然我賺的不多,但我也盡可能的照顧她;這幾年的交往,只要有她在身邊,就感覺很幸福,也從沒想過認識其他異性。
後來在我回家鄉工作時,實在找不到朋友,於是手賤的玩了交友app,也有跟聊天的異性約出去吃飯,但這些我卻是背著她做這事,直到某天被發現臉書上的訊息才爆出來,她當然是大發雷霆,吵著分手,當下我道歉,並說明不會再發生這種事,再發生她要分手,我也不能不答應,就這樣好不容易她原諒我了。
但...我就這麼他媽的賤,一陣子後又手賤的玩了app,又跟網友出去吃飯,這網友是個內心成熟的女孩,也知道我有女友,聊天的過程中,給了我些建議,不管是跟女友的相處.生涯.理財的規劃,我周遭的朋友,幾乎沒人可以討論這些;只是我也沒第一時間跟女友說跟這女生吃飯的事,後來有次聊比較晚,沒接到女友電話,一小時後回播時,跟她說跟網友在聊天,所以沒注意到,話一講完馬上被掛電話。
隔天再打時才有接,但她說已經沒辦法再相信我,之前不是說不會再認識其他異性,現在卻自打嘴巴...
她說的沒錯,我確實是踐踏她對我的信任,即便我把那幾個網友都當作單純聊的來的朋友,都保持著跟異性相處該有的分寸,也確定自己還是愛著女友,認真想跟她走下去。
只是現在連我自己都沒辦法原諒自己的行為,更何況要她原諒我;內心開始動搖,我究竟是不是值得她托付終生的人,亦或該放手讓她去找尋更適合她的人。
懇請版友們幫忙解惑,要鞭我.噓我,我都接受,只希望我可以做出個對她來說是最好的決定...
麻煩了,謝謝..
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