[心情] 你說嘛!公平不公平?
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小妹和男友是南北的遠距離。我們年紀相同,由大學交往至今。只是我畢業後決定繼續升學,而他則選擇工作。交往其間難免會有爭吵,但都多能以雙向溝通來解決。我也不諱言,我們也曾分合了數次。
大概是分開太久,環境都不同了。
小妹我是個希望能作到雙方都能互相的那一種人。我所指的是,男友會常常要求我一些事情,我雖說不能作得十分完美,但是能達到男友的要求的。擧個例子,男友會要求我通訊軟體不能夠已讀不回、跟朋友同學出門和上下班要向他報備(小妹在等研所放榜時曾去短暫的打了一陣子的工)、努力讓自己更豐滿身子不單薄(小妹171cm/48k,有運動習慣,是吃不胖體質),等等之類的。
其實這些我都能接受,進而能盡量去符合男友的期待。
但是我希望,他要求我作到的事,自己也要能作到啊! 可他沒有。
通訊軟體常常已讀不回的多半是他。
上下班/課和出門要求我報備報行程報平安,可知他是重視這塊的人,我不小心忘了他就大發雷霆。但他自己卻從沒對我作到。
關於身形方面,其實男友是屬於有點兒…小胖胖。所以為了他的健康我也要求他要再瘦一點點。不過他從來也只是打打馬虎眼…
還有,男友在情緒波動略大時,常會出現一些比較不堪入目的字眼和髒話。不論是在當面、電話內、還是通訊軟體內。待男友情緒過後,我曾多次向男友表達我不喜歡也不能接受他對我使用這些詞彙。但是他仍舊毫無改變。
小妹我沒有對不起男友過,也都會盡量讓男友安心。會拒絕男同學的單獨邀約,向追求者們表明自己有男友並感情穩定,不作任何會被誤會曖昧的事。都沒有…
我很無力,有很多很多事都覺得不公平,有很多事好像覺得我怎麼做都不對、溝通了他也依然如故。每次有爭執時,聴見或看見男友又對我駡髒話就覺得很難過又憤怒;我在家裡也是老爸的心肝寶貝(老媽的寶貝是弟弟:P),就算是他是男友也不應該這麼作。
好啦,人家承認是要上來討拍的QAQ
我們已經交往了四年了,男友也還算是滿疼我的,個性上面的該磨合的大問題也都磨得差不多了。但人與人相處永遠有解決不完的問題和磨擦,所以請各位別說什麼快分吧、壞了500收(?)之類的。
謝謝各位的耐心觀看(鞠躬)
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