[寶寶] 教養衝突
對於教養衝突。雖然有人幫忙很好,有人給建議很好 。但是我發現許多想法是不同的,
相處上會有很多負面情緒。第一胎時衝突最多,第二胎因為太累又要上班,幾乎完全妥協
。舉例:
1.嬰兒不要抱習慣,訊練自己坐,也就是讓他一直哭都不理他。我抱會被唸。
2.小孩睡前太歡,就大力拍打屁股哄小孩睡。講了沒用,且好像真的有用,但嬰兒的腦不
是很脆弱嗎?
3.愛捏小孩臉,溝通無效。
4.讓小孩想睡就睡,白天睡到十點後,玩到傍晚再小睡,導致小孩晚上該睡時睡不著,晚
上常超過十二點,還跑來跑去,隔天又晚起。父母想訓練,但平常上班無法控制小孩白天
的睡眠,小孩習慣跟長輩睡,長輩晚睡,也不會強迫孩子睡,小孩就跟著晚睡。父母太堅
持想訓練,長輩一定插手不讓孩子哭。
5.覺得乳牙不用刷,不會蛀,蛀了也還會換牙,所以不用勉強刷牙。我們自己會幫孩子刷
,小孩大哭,長輩覺得殘忍,會留下陰影。
6.認為父母不要問孩子的意見,父母應該直接幫孩子做決定。一次我問了孩子要什麼顏色
的牙刷,就被糾正,以後小孩會意見很多。
7.嚇唬或威脅小孩不能哭。但真的有效。
8.老大跟我撒嬌就會被笑秋秋臉。
9.顧小孩一邊用3c,或長期開電視給小孩看,體諒顧小孩的辛苦就算了。
關於上述這些,現在大部分我都閉嘴了。而且有時候長輩的方法真的很有效果效率,小孩
很買帳,讓我懷疑自己的教養觀有問題,是我有問題嗎?
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